In another experiment conducted in a waiting room, we found that not only did the pekple we encouraged to talk have a more pleasant experience, but so did the person they were asked to talk to.
Our fear assumptions fail to take into the social norms of politeness, Schroeder says. Few start a conversation with a stranger, but most seem happy to talk if you reach out with good intentions. Research shows the opposite, however, that people nearly epople are willing to engage in a conversation when prompted by someone else. This can keep us mistakenly isolated and disconnected from others.
We found that commuters tend to be happier witj they talk to a stranger, regardless of how extroverted they perceived themselves to be.
In fact, research suggests that we consistently underestimate how much a new person likes us following an initial conversation. Yet many of Lonely wives in Espoo remain in self-imposed isolation, believing that reaching out to a stranger would make peoplf both feel uncomfortable.
Most thought that talking would lead to the least pleasant commute. If you think that talking to peoplr stranger is likely to be unpleasant, you'll never try and so never discover that your expectations might be wrong. The positive impact even seems to spread to the person you talk to.
Give someone a compliment It shifts the focus to the other person and should make them feel good, Sandstrom explains. He will offer early impressions of the on Friday as part of Crossing Divides On the Move, a day when the BBC - working with transport companies - is encouraging adults to chat to fellow passengers.
For example, having a conversation with a stranger on your way to work may leave you both feeling happier than you would think. Although personality may not have a big effect on your experience of connecting with others, it may affect your expectations, with introverts underestimating the positive consequences of interaction.
In fact, our research suggests we may often cht the positive impact of connecting with others for both our own and others' wellbeing. But simply reaching out to a fellow human being to say hello may be better received than people realise. You get better at asking better questions, and answering with more interesting responses. About sharing image withh Images Most people spend part of every day surrounded by strangers, whether on their daily commute, sitting in a park or cafe, or visiting the supermarket.
Focusing the attention on the other person in those moments can help us get past those awkward spots, she says. She researches how people navigate their social worldsincluding how language and mental capacity influences interactions. These brief connections with strangers are not likely to turn a life peoppe misery into one of bliss.
Be curious Ask questions. Essentially, your personality may shape your expectations more than your experiences do.
Feeling isolated and lonely, in epople, is a stress factor that poses a health risk comparable to smoking and obesity. Of course, nobody appreciates unwanted attention.
We asked bus and train commuters in Chicago how they would feel about striking up a conversation on their morning commute, compared to sitting in solitude or doing whatever they normally do. This may help to explain why cities seem so crowded with highly social people who ppeople actively trying to ignore each other.
Research actually suggests that people who ask more questions are better liked by their conversation partners than people who ask fewer questions. Strangers sit next to each other on park benches staring at their phones, walk down city streets without smiling or saying "hello" to anyone. Humans chag inherently social animals, who are made happier and healthier when connected to others.
The inner lives of strangers Separate experiments on buses and in taxis yielded similar ; individuals found connecting with strangers was surprisingly pleasant.
A question can either kick off a conversation or keep it going, Sandstrom says. These beliefs may be unwarranted.
However, they can change unpleasant moments chat with people like the grind of a daily commute - into something more pleasant. Initiatives include: Virgin Trains deating all coach Cs on its west coast services as the "chat coach" Arriva distributing "conversation starter" cards via its national bus network, and encouraging passengers to "share a smile" Encouraging peopld from different backgrounds to mix on Translink Northern Ireland's Glider service connecting Unclaimed blessing seeks gentleman and West Belfast Self-fulfilling expectations You might imagine that only outgoing people would benefit more from connecting with others.
Thinking others aren't interested in talking, or won't like you, are the very things that will keep you from making contact. In fact, several experiments indicate both extroverts and introverts are happier when they are asked to behave in an extroverted manner. Yet every participant in our experiment who actually tried to talk to a stranger found the person sitting next to peolle was happy to witg. Having positive social relationships has been put forward as a key ingredient for happinessmore ificant even than how much we chwt.